Some parenting issues
September 11, 2020 § Leave a comment
Why do we feel the need to control our children? What are we afraid of? One part of the fear is perhaps easier to understand, which is that they will never stop playing video games, for example, or go overboard with junk food, if unchecked. So these are areas where we have to teach them that there should be healthy limits.
But are there areas where we control our children based just on our own fears and preferences and not because they are going to harm themselves? In fact could we be harming our children by trying to change their behaviour in areas where we don’t need to or worse, where we should preferably leave them alone? What are these areas?
Listening to audio books was exempt from the limits we placed on gadgets for our son until yesterday, when I discovered that he was playing a favourite video game on the sly when we thought he was listening to an audio book. So today the audio book was added to 6 p.m. curfew on gadgets and I insisted he download a book on the Kindle instead, if he wanted a book after 6 p.m.
He made a cursory attempt at looking for a couple of books on the Kindle and gave up and went away. Then he came back and I coaxed him to look some more. He then remembered that he’d read the first book in a fantasy-adventure series for young adults, and found the next one on the Kindle store. I bought it for him and now he’s reading it. I’m a bit relieved because I was beginning to get worried that he will loose his interest in reading books.
This year is a washout for parents trying to get their children to do interesting things. Especially for those parents like me who foolishly introduced their children to gadgets early on. I impulsively bought my son a tablet when he was nine and now at nearly 12, he’s graduated to the Nintendo Switch and has lost interest in so many other things he used to do — from origami to drawing his own comics.
He finally got the switch last month after dreaming and talking about it for a year. And now the never-ending hankering after new games has begun.
Today is day seven of stopping my evening dose of Trinicalm Plus (Trifluoperazine and some other stuff) and I was certainly feeling the pull of the drug a bit, and the craving for it. The plan is to continue to stay off of the evening dose for another week and then try to get off the morning dose as well. I feel I’m coping with my anxiety and depression well enough and that it’s time to try and taper off the medicines. Or at least some of it.
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